Last week we tackled the thought of being worth far more than rubies. This scripture gives us a little more insight into how to be of that much worth. I specifically like this verse as a wife; however, it can be quite intimidating. Let’s break this down into a two-part message.
Let’s tackle part one first!
Sounds like it is a no-brainer but, I know many of women who are not honest with their husbands. What dangerous territory! What might seem small can quickly get out of hand. It does not have to be anything BIG! This could be as small as a husband who asks- did you by chance to go by the bank. His wife quickly responding, “yes” knowing she forgot- but thinking she will just swing by in the morning.
Sacrificing honesty to avoid reaction or refusing to admit wrong is never a good idea! The moment a husband finds his wife being dishonest, regardless of the reason, she starts to lose points within his heart. Lost trust can be regained -but- it is a battle harder to win than just staying honest in the first place.
The fun one! For us wives that feel it is okay to “omit” small details or even worse, omit situations entirely. This happens in a few ways.
When we marry our husbands, we commit a lifetime to him. That is a BIG commitment and one that should not be taken as a simple contract to be roommates. We are dedicating our love, faithfulness and promising to give our best (even during his worst). Part of that means it is not in our best interest to be in a situation that could cause doubt. It is best for us to avoid any temptation, keeping our marriages healthy, and allowing our husband to have full trust in their wives.
Now, of course, the obvious is faithfulness. But there are a lot of us women that fall into other categories and plead not serious.
What about using the excuse “I’m too tired” when you should have said “no” to things on your to-do list? Prioritizing your energy towards your relationship and avoiding the temptation of perfectionism in the never-ending to-do-list. Or how about the way we spend money? Retail therapy or impulse shopping anyone?!
I will be honest, I easily can overspend at the grocery store! Yes, we can adjust our budget elsewhere and everything is okay so it may not seem like it could be that big of an offense. The truth…it is bad financial stewardship. Even more, I can add on lack of transparency around overspending in groceries! (Justifying is one of my strong suits!)
Now we know grocery shopping is necessary for those of us who like to survive by eating. BUT, I have found ways to avoid temptation and be a better steward of finances. I now pay a $5 service fee to do my grocery shopping online and have it delivered to my car. Avoiding the instore temptation where I would spend $10, $30 or $60 over budget just because I am tempted to buy “the sale, candy bar or another little gadget”.
Avoiding situations that could cause our husbands to doubt, and damage his trust, is a great proactive practice for any marriage!
So wives of noble character, if we proactively seek out the first part of this verse, we will reap the reward of the second half. “So he will have no lack of gain.” Our husbands’ will value us, knowing that nothing will be lacking in which he entrusted us with. Rather it is finances, children, family vacations or even his deepest dreams!
You know what is great about living in a marriage where our husbands can trust us with their whole heart? We get to live honestly! Without hiding things and worrying about “if he finds out”. Living freely in our marriage is one of the biggest rewards we can give ourselves!
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