Brides! Let’s be honest…YOU are balancing A LOT! No matter where you are in life, if you are adding wedding planning to your workload, you are bound to come across some decisions that have the potential to bring unwanted stress!
As a bride, I thought I handled wedding planning beautifully…until the day of our rehearsal. I broke down that day because I felt like nothing was getting taken care of (and being the checklist addict I am), I knew there was only so much I could to do! THIS moment that I had…I want ALL brides to be able to avoid! My go-to-advice (to avoid unwanted stress) is to hire a wedding planner or day of coordinator. But the 3 tips I am going to share below, are simple things that I wish I would have known as a bride. 😀
My favorite tip is the 80/20 rule! (PS- If you are not familiar with the 80/20 rule you should definitely Google it! It is life changing in so many ways when applied correctly!)
If you remember one piece of advice, this is the one! Only 20% of choices that come your way as you plan your big day are going to make an authentic difference! With the 80/20 rule, you want to focus on the 20% of options that will make up 80% of your wedding day! Out of all the choices you have, most brides can sum up their most impactful decisions all on one hand! Budget, Wedding Party, Venue, Photographer & Wedding Dress! Focus on these 5 things, leaving room to breathe with all other details!
Rather you are going small and intimate, or the sky is the limit, understanding your budget and sticking to it will save you a lot of stress. Again focus on the 80/20 rule, this is 1 of 5 categories you need to stay focused on.
Who you have in your wedding will be something you will always remember. You should select those that supported your relationship journey, will support your decision to marry & the ones that you love the most! Yes, this is a time to pick favorites, you know you have them!
Your wedding venue will be significant due to location, wedding size accommodation, budget, and creating the vibe you want for your wedding. (If you are still searching for the perfect venue, be sure to check out our tips to selecting the best venue here!)
You can have the BEST wedding and you should! It can be a small elopement or the talk of the town, but if you do not have a photographer there to capture the emotion and your big day unfolding…you will have lost moments that can never be genuinely recreated! (If you are still looking for a wedding photographer for your big day, be sure to grab your free guide: 5 Tips on How to Choose the Best Wedding Photographer here!)
I am sure no matter what wedding gown you wear, your groom will be so in love with how beautiful you are! BUT! It is so critical that you LOVE how you look on your wedding day! If a bride does not feel beautiful in her gown, it will not matter that others tell her she is beautiful. It will truly affect how she feels on her big day!
Everything else…do not stress! Make your choice and move on because I promise your peace of mind is way more important than the detailed decisions that brides face every day!
This can be with your fiancé, family or besties! You can even make it fun and create a Bride Bucket List! This will help you remember to live life during this season and not get caught up in wedding planning! Doing activities you love, will help give yourself a mental/emotional break from planning.
Your vendors are your “go to” during your wedding planning process! Hiring vendors that you will like, are comfortable with, and have confidence in- will be a game changer in your less stress wedding planning journey! I say this because I have seen so many brides stressed & worried if one of their vendors would show up, because they had not heard from them since paying their deposit! The last thing you want as a bride is to worry about your investment in bridal services!
If you stick to these 3 tips, you will have a great head start on enjoying your season of engagement and minimizing the stress that wedding planning can bring! Breathe around the other details & remember…your wedding day is to celebrate your new journey into marriage, let the planning be FUN!