This scripture is pretty straightforward. A wife that is worth far above rubies would bring her husband good all the days of her life! In fact, I genuinely believe if we take this verse to heart, and put it into practice every day…we would have a lower divorce rate! Welcome to WifeLife the Best Wife!
It is true that we enter into marriage only wanting the best for our spouse, but over time our agendas start to shift back and center around ourselves. Creating opportunities that we may not realize is bringing him harm.
Out of the 21 verses in this passage, her relationship with her husband is mentioned right after her worth, and before children, home responsibilities, and career. This is very important and something I do not want you to miss! When we marry, we make a lifetime commitment. Besides the decision of eternal salvation, marriage is the longest commitment you will make! It makes sense, that to make a lifetime commitment work, we would need to make it a #1 priority over children, homemaking, and career. Thank goodness I am a mom with a full-time job, to be able to say that with confidence wholeheartedly!
So, wives, it is time to take a look and see if we are bringing our husbands good and not harm.
Let’s first talk about doing good for our husband! Bringing our husbands good and not harm, is a daily choice. In my marriage, I have a simple good, better, best wife thought process to try and bring Gabe as much good as I can every day!
This strategy is simple (but not always easy: again, think rubies, think being the best wife!). You mentally take what you want your initial action/response (both verbal & nonverbal) to be and reflect on it. Is it good? How can it be better? Is it your best? Hint: Choose your best every time, and you will not regret it! (Don’t worry I am going to pair this strategy with a scenario towards the end!)
Now you might think, you do not bring your husband harm. Let’s cover a few major bases just in case!
Now that you have read through and reflected on the above questions. Let’s put the good, better, best wife strategy into play with the scenario below!
The wife is anxiously awaiting her husband’s arrival. This is the first night she has had time to make a home cooked meal this week. The Husband text his wife 20 minutes after he was supposed to be home to let her know he has to work later than expected.
She initially wants to respond back in frustration and express how much hard work she put in for tonight’s dinner. She considers, is it a good response? Not really…
What is a better reply? Maybe one that will not make him feel like he just ruined her night? So she thinks to respond with a simple okay and ask what time he thinks he might make it home. This is the better response. BUT is it her BEST wife response?
Now she starts to contemplate, how she can bring her husband good with her response. She observes that he did not intentionally try to be late and he has no idea of the work she has done. She considers that he is probably tired and ready to leave the office and wants to be home just as bad as she wants him there. So she uses her BEST wife response and tells him not to worry! Thanks him for letting her know, and shares that she can’t wait to see him, as she has a special meal ready for him when he gets home!
Choosing to bring your husband good and not harm all the days of your life will make a significant difference in your marriage! It will help you to accomplish owning your marriage happiness scale & being the best wife!
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